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If you’re a little nervous about the fact that you’re fighting with your partner, let out a sigh of relief. No two human beings think or behave in a way that is perfectly identical. It’s totally normal for there to be friction from time to time, and you shouldn’t automatically take conflict with your partner as a sign that something is wrong. In fact, your relationship is ten times more likely to survive and be fulfilling if you and your partner fight on occasion so long as you clash in a healthy and respectful manner.

Fighting reasserts each person’s independence. If the two of you agreed on everything all the time, you’d lose your sense of self. The occasional conflict reminds each of you that you’re different people and might help stimulate conversations, ideas, and a deeper understanding of your partner.